The Bends

I’m going through a really difficult time, and I could really use some perspective. I’m a gay 47-year-old man with a husband of 25+ years. We have two young children in the house. My husband and I are monogamish, and our relationship is okay. Not great, not terrible. Up until about three years ago, I was a big bearish/chub guy, and carried all the self-loathing and insecurities that can be associated with that. I had stomach surgery to lose weight, and I started to feel like ma