She Didn't Actually Cheat—Almost Did, But Didn't—But Her Husband Is Sure She Will Cheat Sometime. So Why Not Punish Her Now?

by Dan Savage
I’m a 25-year-old female. I’ve been married to my husband for two years, together for a total of four. I had an emotional affair, admitted it to my husband but downplayed it, and came clean about everything a month later. Suffice to say that my husband was furious. He doesn’t believe he can trust me (I don’t blame him) and mentioned divorce. I have cut off communication with the other guy and started therapy to deal with the issues that led me to the decisio