Savage Love: Two Breakups, One Brake On

by Dan Savage Joe NewtonI'm a thirtysomething straight woman married for 16 years. Eighteen months ago, I met a man and there was an immediate attraction. For the first 15 months of our relationship, I was his primary sexual and intimate partner, as both sex and intimacy were lacking in his marriage. (My husband knew of the relationship from the start and is accepting for the most part.) After my lover's wife found out about me, she suddenly became very responsive to my lover's sexual and emotio