Savage Love: Retroactive Blessings

by Dan Savage Joe NewtonWithout snooping, I came across texts between my wife "Mary" and a guy "Jeremy" of a very sexual nature. While I would be okay if she were doing this and I knew about it, this has been going on since before we met. (We've been together 10 years.) She says she has never met him in person (despite communicating with him for more than a decade!) and this was the only thing she was doing that she thought would have been out of bounds. Again, if I had known, it would have been