Savage Love: Positive Thinking

by Dan Savage Joe SavageGay guy here. Met a guy online. He came over. We had incredible sex and then a great conversation lasting several hours. But—and you knew there was one coming—he told me that he lied about his HIV status. (I asked him before meeting him, like I do with anyone.) He is undetectable, but he told me initially he was "HIV/STD negative." I got very upset—more from the lie than his status. (I know that undetectable is practically the same as negative.) I really