Savage Love Letter of the Day: Reader Advice Roundup

by Dan Savage
This past week had two truly low points: the brutal hate crime slayings in Portland and the greatly accelerated collapse of our climate, courtesy of Trump. But #covfefe, right?
This week from letter-writers: How do you come out as gay at work? How do you jerk off to "nonconsensual sexual contact" and still call yourself a feminist? How does a quad poly squad get their libidos to sync? And now a selection of responses to my responses that were too good for comment threads (and so we