Savage Love Letter of the Day: Getting Back on the Bottom

by Dan Savage
About two years ago I was raped by another man. I'm not going to retell all the gory details. Suffice to say it was a horrible experience. It was semi-casual and I never saw the guy again, nor did I ever approach the police. At the time I was too scared about HIV and after that, well... it took a long time to figure it wasn't my fuckup.
My problem is that since then I've hardly had sex. I bottomed once and it was a bit of a disaster. He was a nice guy and very patient, but I'd u-tu