Savage Love Letter of the Day: Column A and Column B

I am a straight woman in my mid-forties. I have been seeing the same man for six years, he is a similar age to me. About a year ago we officially moved in together. There are several problems.I like to socialize and go out to see movies and bands, eat dinner with friends and family, and take trips away for leisure. He is usually reluctant to do any of these types of activities with me and seems content to spend most of his time in the house aside from work and essentials e.g. going to the grocer