Savage Love: Boundaries

by Dan Savage Joe Newton
I'm a 42-year-old single, straight female who recently started dating a 36-year-old man in a somewhat exclusive, long-distance relationship. We have known each other for a short time, but have clocked hours upon hours on the phone. I have specifically stated many times I don't want kids of my own (he does), am extremely safety conscious (only when I see someone's STI results and know we're 100 percent monogamous will I go "bareback"), and am against hormonal contraceptio