Learning To Trust Again After a Monogamish Relationship Blows Up

by Dan Savage
I need your help thinking through something. I've always loved the idea of a monogamish relationship. I get it: two people shouldn't be everything to each other, especially if one of them has a kink the other one isn't into. So, when I found out that my then-boyfriend had a thing for exchanging nude photos with women online, I gave him the green light.
Throughout our relationship and into our marriage, I had moments of insecurity. There were times when he was paying more attention