Considerate Partners Can Work Out a Compromise Where Porn Is Concerned

by Dan Savage
I’m a 27-year-old woman in a relationship with a 50-year-old man. Recently we had a fight about him showing me a video a friend had sent him of a woman he'd slept with in the past. It was an explicit video which I wouldn’t have wanted to watch. I’ve told him in the past that I don’t care if he watches porn when he’s alone but I don’t want to watch it with him, which he has mostly respected. I’ve thought about it, trying to get to the root o