HOA Homefront: Reader wants to know do off-site owners have rights?

Q: Hi Kelly, I live part-time outside the USA. I asked my (self-managed) HOA to send all available notices and disclosures to my secondary address, which I designated as my e-mail. They claim they will not accept an e-mail as secondary address and insist on a post office box or a physical location. I refused to give it to them since I have suffered identity theft in the past and also I travel, so e-mail seems to be best. Can an e-mail address serve as secondary address or must it be on