How to be human: what comes after an affair

Leah Reich was one of the first internet advice columnists. Her column "Ask Leah" ran on IGN, where she gave advice to gamers for two and a half years. During the day, Leah is Slack’s user researcher, but her views here do not represent her employer. How to be Human runs every other Sunday. You can write to her at askleah@theverge.com and read more How to be Human here.
Leah,
Not sure if this is still a good way to reach you, but I need some help.
Backstory: I'm a 10-year combat veteran wi