Why do we hold on to first impressions in a relationship?

We need to take responsibilty for our mistakes in choosing our partner rather than simply justifying it to ourselvesI have been reading Mistakes Were Made (But Not By Me) by Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson, a book about cognitive dissonance – the phenomenon that arises, with uncomfortable feelings, when two deeply held internal points of view come into conflict with one another. To avoid such feelings, we resort to self-justification.The book contains a chapter on cognitive dissonance in m