I’ve only had one orgasm

Now I have met a nice guy and would like to find my orgasm with him, but don’t know how to approach itI am 42 and have had one orgasm. It was with someone I shouldn’t have been with, and we were at risk of being discovered. That scenario has never happened again and neither has the orgasm – through penetration anyway. However, I have just begun to see a nice guy and really would like to find my orgasm with him, but don’t know how to approach it. Illicit encounters are fre