The power of coming out: forging an identity through adversity

Heterosexuals may be able to learn about building courage and strength from their gay and lesbian friends, says David Waters
Lucian Freud was once asked why so many gay men sat for his portraits. “I’ve always been friends with queers,” he said. “They’re just so brave.” Freud was sharing a truth as well as echoing Nietzsche’s most famous aphorism: “That which doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” Being openly gay in a sometimes hostile wor